4 EASY WAYS TO DEFEAT JEAULOSY!

Jealousy creeps up on us in different aspects of life and it also happens to be one of the most unproductive, negative emotions that exist…so why?

It exists when when you see someone else experiencing something you’d like to have.

What makes you jealous might not matter to the person beside you because it all comes down to your values and what’s important to you. And although natural, it is self-destructive and distorts your reality, your attitude, and your feelings. The consequences? You being hurt and hurting those you care about most. That’s why it’s so important to take control of those negative emotions and do your best to convert them into positive energy. Here are 4 easy steps to show you exactly how:

#1 Accept that you’re jealous.

No one likes to admit they’re jealous and to be frank it’s quite an embarrassing confession. If you’re competitive in nature, it’s likely that you’ve felt resentful towards someone else because of their advantages at least once in your life. These annoying feelings exist in intimate relationships, sports, appearance (especially girls), and in our work life. While I may not be that crazy, jealous girlfriend, it’s very possible I envy others’ successes as a career-driven individual especially those I know personally. The first step to tackling jealousy is to recognize and admit that you’re jealous – it happens and that’s okay. (Just so we’re on the same page, envy and jealousy are essentially the same thing).

#2 Convert your emotions into a stimulus.

No matter where your feelings come from, use them as a motivator to become better for yourself. Do not compare someone else’s accomplishments to your own. You have no idea where they have been. Instead change your perspective – are they somewhere you want to be? Do they have something you wish you had? Are they doing something you want to do? If the answer is yes, turn your angry feelings into curiosity and figure out how you’re going to get there too, then take action. The busier you keep yourself, the less time you have to worry about and focus on those around you. Keep it moving.

#3 Applaud Others’ Successes.

It’s so much healthier to feel genuinely happy for someone else so compliment them and celebrate their successes. Let them know how happy you are for them and soon enough, you can join them!

#4 Practice gratitude.

Remember that life is never as it seems, no one ever has everything together. While someone may look happy and successful on the outside, you have no idea what’s tearing them apart on the inside – the same goes for you. You may not be happy in every compartment of your life, but surely there are things to be grateful for…shine the light on those things instead.


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